We recently moved. It has been rough. We loved the place we were in before and are less than enamored with our current residence. But in the midst of feeling uncomfortable, unsettled and uncertain, I am trying to be open to what God can teach me. I have a feeling there’s a lot to learn in this season. One of the things that I’ve already noticed is how not having many mirrors has affected me.

Our old place—the one we loved—was built in the 80s with mirrors everywhere. Some of them were brilliantly placed. There were full walls of mirrors in the living room and bedroom to amplify the ocean and mountain views. Both bathrooms had a full wall of mirrors above the counters—no dainty mirrors there—and of course, the closet in the bedroom had, you guessed it, mirrored doors. Even on the elevator ride to our seventh floor unit we were surrounded by mirrors.

As someone who has spent far too much time analyzing my body, and face, and hair, and clothes, I didn’t realize how living surrounded by mirrors in some ways magnified my insecurities. If my stomach was sticking out a bit more than I would like on any given day—or all of them—there was no hiding. I saw it everywhere. Even after throwing on a t-shirt and a hat to take the dog for a walk, I’d scrutinize my appearance for seven floors, wondering what people would think—what they would see—when they looked at me. It was second nature. It always has been. I guess that’s one of the lingering symptoms of years battling an eating disorder.

Yet…and yes, there is a blessed yet, I don’t do that here. Here in this place that doesn’t feel like home. This place where we are grateful we have a six-month lease, instead of a full year. Here I don’t look at myself nearly as often. The best part is not that I don’t miss it, but that I feel better not staring at my humanity hundreds of times a day.

This new place has exactly two mirrors. One in the tiny bathroom above the sink. It’s small, only enough for one person to use at once. The second one is also small. We put that one up so that when Erik and I are both getting ready at the same tine I have somewhere to do my hair and makeup.

There are no full-length mirrors, no haunting reflections. There’s no place for me to look at my entire outfit and frown when I don’t like what I see. And there’s been freedom in it. Freedom in the lack of mirrors. Freedom in glancing at what I look like once and then forgetting about it as I go about my day.

I’ve realized, in a culture so obsessed with appearance, mirrors allow us to keep obsessing. It may not kill us, like it did Narcissus, but then again, it might already be eating away at us in ways we hadn’t realized.

What about you? How many mirrors do you have in your home? Do they help you or hinder you? I’m finding a silver lining in not being surrounded by my reflection. In fact, when we move again, I’ll keep that in mind. But man, do I miss the air conditioning, ocean view and swimming pool.